Pickin’ Wildflowers #TrueNorthey

by Jessica Northey 

First of all…HAPPY AFTER MOST OF THE HOLIDAYS and 2014!!!!

I really do hate to give advice, but seem to love to give my opinion, and yes it’s true, I can be a bit bossy.  However, I am not the type to write, ‘how to’s‘ that try to sell and/or tell people, ‘this is what I think you should do‘; that’s just never been my way. Mostly because after 15+ years experience in traditional media I recognize, there’s not ONE right way to do things, and the minute you think you got it dialed in, everything changes.

Just consider my thoughts as experience talking.

I am not perfect. I am not a qualified therapist, nor do I consider myself to be some kind of guru in the Social Media world. I am just a girl who dreamed up some ideas, and has fearlessly gone after them.

The point of this post is somewhere between your two ears. The garden, that is your mind. Some years ago, I starting saying “I need to pull some weeds” when I had thoughts that made me feel uneasy or uncomfortable in my own skin.  I would shamelessly, talk to a friend/family member, and pull them weeds out of my head!  I have to say there is so much power in telling someone *safe* your crappy thoughts, and getting them, the heck out of your brain. I caution you, be very selective with who you talk to, not everyone is trustworthy, and you may want to hit up a professional or even a member of the clergy when stuff seems just too big.

So just like the way you approach gardening in your yard, here are some basic tools I try to use to stay sane online, and off:

-Some dirt is harder to grow in
First and foremost being around toxic people is not conducive to growth, and pretty much guarantees some crappy thoughts. I was once involved in a friendship that was sold to me as love and support, about 3 months in, realized it was bullying and adhering to this person’s way of thinking. NO BUENO and  guaranteed to produce weeds. When you see red flags, pay attention! Someone who tells you, “don’t trust this person”, “don’t talk to that person”, or tells you other people’s secrets, is probably telling yours!

-Don’t feed the weeds.
When you give too much attention to negative thoughts you are taking away from the positive ones.  Obsessing about things you have no control over doesn’t help either. You do the best work you can do, plan the plan, and then let the outcome be what it is meant to be. May sound a little zen but really works like a charm.

-Pull from the roots
You have to be willing to dig deep, and pull that sucker out….and then throw it away.  The key to letting go IS letting go. It is always a process and pretty much everything I let go of, usually has claw marks.  But I am getting better at not “should’ing” on myself, or carrying around BS that’s not mine. Not gonna lie, it can be hard. Just surround yourself with people who support you.

-Cut back  at the top
Sometimes you can’t get all the way to the root, but you need to get the weed before the “seed rain” begins. Look at situation, write it down and weigh out the pros and cons.  When you take inventory you can make a decision about how much more of your time you want to invest.

-Let the Sunshine in
Most plants need sunshine to grow. You can look at the bad things that happen and chose to wallow in the darkness, or make a decision to learn from it and become a better person.  I chose to believe there is way more good in the world if you just look for it.  I try to stay really close to the people who have positive energy, and if you look at any of my Social Media streams, you will see who I talk to a lot and retweet/repost/reshare a lot. Those are my peeps and the sunshine in my life!

-Water the stuff you want to grow
This is similar to sunshine, and sounds like a no-brainer, right. Just know, if you look for it and are open to it, you will attract good things into your life!  You can’t just “wish” thing to happen. You have to work. I hear people say all the time, “how come all these great things are happening to other people and not me.”  Maybe they just worked harder than you, or it was their time. You can’t compare your insides to other people’s outsides and if you are, and want what someone else has, you have to be willing to do what they did. FIND those people, WATCH those people and LEARN from those people. The proof is in the walk, not the talk.

Get rid of them pesky weeds and watch the wildflowers bloom!

Hey life! BRING IT ON!

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Author: Jessica Northey

Everyone asks “what exactly do you do Jessica?” What some of my family members say, “she tweets for a living” is my favorite, but really the title that puts food on the table is “Social Media Influencer,” the definition sounds simple, someone who influences others through social media, but I consider myself a Citizen Journalist broadcasting and entertaining with news, thoughts, opinions, delivering information in my own unique way. Famous for my ‘sass wit and straight from the hip’ style I’ve always been called a “Social Media Pioneer” in the music industry. I’m also an On-Air/Online Broadcasting Host and Personality, Digital Media Strategist, Country and Music Blogger/Journalist as well as a Nationally recognized Speaker and Founder of Country Music Chat, News and Views Entertainment Website CMChatLIVE.com. My favorite accomplishment is starting the largest Country Music Hashtag community in the world Country Music’s #CMChat. It all started with a hunch...back in the early 2000’s I would dial up the internet via AOL and join chat rooms whilst watching my favorite programs on TV. Loved watching Reality Shows with my Mom in Tucson, and blowing her mind with how I always knew who was going home on the Bachelor or Big Brother. Don’t think she ever caught on that I was talking to people via computer on the East Coast, where it had already aired. (We didn’t have the uber-spoiler Twitter or Facebook to ruin results and awards shows for us yet.) I’ve been taking over the internet, one tweet at a time and have accumulated over 3 Million followers/friends/fans across all my Social Media networks. Over the years I’ve been consistently ranked as an influential online personality and even named as a Forbes Top 50 Social Media Power Influencer. I was the first person Merle Haggard followed when he got on Twitter and spent the day with Garth Brooks at Twitter and Facebook when joined the social media world.

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  1. Boy are you right about having someone to vent to. Here’s a couple I’d add.

    -It’s OK to have crappy thoughts sometimes. Just don’t make them your dominant set of thoughts.

    -Everyone has bad days. You need to vent, sometimes your friends do too. So be prepared to let them sound off when they need.

    much as it stinks to hear sometimes, there are people that have it
    worse than you do. You have a nasty cold and are throwing up? Someone
    else is throwing up from cancer treatments. You’ve got a leak in your
    roof? Someone else is sleeping outside tonight huddled up trying to
    stay warm and dry. It’s alright to want a little pity now and then, but
    remember how good you do have it.

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